What is the definition of parenting and when are you a good parent? For me being a parent has been a very painful process the last 5 years. It was al about letting go of my perception of parenting. My situation was that I couldn’t see my children anymore…I became a victim of narcissistic personality disorder.
I went through deep layers of pain, guilt, shame, anger etc…Over and over again looking at what was my part in this game we call Life. A lot of people had their judgments about me as a Mother. It was hard to be confronted with all these whisperings and glares. They don’t know me. They don’t know me as a mother. They don’t know the story behind it.
Every day a piece of my ego died…A life without my children felt as if my heart was ripped apart. They are the beat of my heart, the pulse of my veins and the energy of my Soul. This separation gave me a lot of insights about what separation is all about. Slowly I began to awake from the illusion of separation.
By giving my children more space out of unconditional love, I created space for myself to heal and release all the pain of the past. My spiritual connection with them became very powerful. A Soul connection beyond words….They gave me the most beautiful lesson in the World, to Love myself first.
One day they will realize and feel what I gave them from my Mother’s heart. Sometimes True Love is letting go when you actually want to hold on. Letting go is not for the faint of heart…It’s the hardest thing most of us will ever have to learn. Because true love, real love, unselfish love…demands nothing less.
So again, the question I asked at the beginning of my sharing. When are you a good parent? There is no such a thing as being a good parent. It’s about taking care of yourself. This way you give your children the most beautiful lesson in the World. Love yourself first and everything else falls into place…
If you know people who struggle with being a parent. Don’t judge, have true compassion for their situation. Through judging we separate, through understanding we grow. To all parents out there…I see you, I feel you and I love you. You are strong and you are doing just fine.
Many many Blessings,
Death is a stripping away of all that is not you.
The secret of life is to die before you die — and find that there is no death (Eckhart Tolle)